Should My Mother Have A Facelift?

Q: Dr. Eppley, I am writing because I am concerned about my mother having a facelift. She is 57 years old and I am her 24 year-old daughter. I know lots of people have facelifts but that is them and this is my mother. I am concerned about its safety and I don’t want anything to happen to her. Like me, my brother and sister don’t understand why she wants this surgery. She is a beautiful women who may be aging but still looks good to us. My father just shakes his head but is going along with it. What can I say to talk her out of it?

A: While I obviously don’t know your mother or you, I can share some general comments about ‘older’ people having plastic surgery. Children’s concerns about their parents undergoing some form of face or body rejuvenation is actually very common. Many parents have told me that their children don’t understand or approve of them having elective surgery over something they view as unnecessary. While there may be some understandable medical concerns, most of the apprehension comes from what I often say…’when you don’t have the problem, you don’t see the need’. When one is young and invincible, it is hard to imagine that one day aging and body changes will come knocking. When you develop that sagging neck and jowls or those love handles and stomach that won’t go away no matter what you do, you may have a different perspective on the merits of plastic surgery. I would respect your mother’s desire to look and feel good again for herself. A good self-image knows no age limits. Facelift surgery is very safe and most patients look remarkably recovered in just a few weeks. 

Dr. Barry Eppley

Indianapolis, Indiana